Blue Blood- Blue Ocean

My mom was a camper.

She still is.

She and my niece Eva and myself visited her camp for family weekend just over a month ago.

My mom was proud.

To have her with us, yes.

But mostly, for us to see her heaven.

Camp Desoto, Mentone Alabama.

 

This camp was the home of her childhood and blue was the color of her blood.

Camp cheers echoed against the trees with little girls belting out the sounds of giants, their neck veins bulging and throats like sandpaper by sunset.

My mom took the train to camp from Louisiana every summer, staying for one month, sometimes two, singing camp songs the whole way.

 

When we stood in a circle last month, right before a game was shared, the weekend lead counselor and game extraordinaire asked us to introduce ourselves and state our age, where we were from, you know… the usual.

 

“Ohh..uhh.. you don’t have to say your age.”

She blushed, the corners of her eyes glancing up at my mom out of respect and embarrassment.

 

My mom went first.

“Well, I’m Kathleen and I’m 69 years old and this is my favorite place in the world.”

So unmistakably confident.

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My mom would pull the car over first thing.

To greet the ocean.

My brothers and I would laugh, poke fun, stay in the car.

But my mom, her eyes were glued to the beauty and depth of the ocean.

Like it was her first time to see it, every time.

She belonged here.

In crowded, way too crowded Florida.

Kids on bikes, with wet hair, salty smells, and sticky fingers.

Ice cream cones galore. 

I remember watching her back as she peeled further from the boxy, Cheeto-crumb van.

Her back and everything attached to it got smaller as she was pulled from the car to the ocean, its magnetic force overpowering her need to check in or eat something or unpack.

Her pink and white striped shirt and blue shorts disappearing toward the ocean, all in a trance.

 

I’ve never seen her happier.

Cutesy Go-Getter Smiles

What matters now?

Cheez-Its and foam rollers.

A boyfriend turned husband.

A ring on my finger,

When I’m not too scared to wear it. 

A glass of wine on a Monday.

A workout video found on YouTube, taught by 3 soccer moms all wearing blue and cutesy go-getter smiles. 

A hilarious coworker who is quick to laugh at emails and intercom announcements and keeps me connected when I can count on one hand the number of friends I have in this new town, this new beginning. 

Panting my nails, slowly.

And then picking at the paint during long, sometimes pointless meetings, like a child picks at glue.

Cleaning out the fridge,

Taking out the trash.

Remembering to buy new garbage bags.

Why do I always forget to buy new garbage bags?

A wave and a smile from my 30-something neighbor, a short hopeful exchange that promises a friendship and a walk, perhaps when her four kids are at Grandma’s.

Remembering to wash my mask, to bring my mask to work, or I can’t enter the building.

Seeing new shades of red and blue on our new TV that we bought at too-crowded-for-a-pandemic Costco right after we ate 2 slices of pizza standing up.

What matters now is pink and yellow unicorn slippers bought at CVS.

Watching the Bachelorette with Lucy,

“Keeping it cool” with my dad and not lingering on his preaching.

What matters now is improving my handwriting and reading the Alicia Keys’ memoir,

Cooking winter squash and sitting at the fire.

Protecting Jim and Pam’s love, no matter what the cost.

What matters now is this. 
All of it.

Sleep-Eating

 “I saw Ruffles in the trash can this morning.”

This was Lucy, to Brandon, in our kitchen.

Lucy with her brown-rimmed glasses, the beginning of a familiar laugh tickling cheeks and buzzing at her lips, her baggy high school soccer shirt hanging off her shoulders.

“Lady Falcons” in bulky red letters laid vibrantly across a soft cement gray, a color combination only intended for high school t-shirts.

 

It was Saturday.

Saturdays are slow these days, meant for conversations like this one, in the kitchen. 

Mismatched socks, messy hair.

Coffee and maze-like exchanges about our day’s plans that are never actually plans this early, just ideas.

 

One Saturday, Prince was the topic of conversation and how we all seemed to miss that particular fan wave, and we were sad about that. (Was it too late?)

“How did he die exactly?”

Brandon explained.

“Where was he from?”

Lucy answered. 

 

This was that kind of Saturday.

 

“Yeahh.. “ Brandon inched in with a leaning voice and a side eye.

“The Ruffles… that was me.”

 

His confession was playful as that same tickling threat of a laugh circled his mouth.

 

See, sleepwalking is not exactly Brandon.

His eyes don’t easily cater to pitch-black hallways and sharp kitchen counter corners but, sleep-eating is a constant friend of his.

Chip-crunching, powerbar-smashing, and sugary fingertips are all a part of the adventure of lying next to Brandon at night.

Thankfully, I am a heavy sleeper and I hardly even notice.

Until of course, someone finds Ruffles in the trashcan.

The Worst of Sounds

I can hear it now.

The sound of my old roommate’s cat slurping water with her tiny, scratchy, leaf-like tongue.

And immediately, a look of disgust forms below my hairline.

My face wrinkles up like a comeback scrunchy. 

It is forever and always the worst sound of all sounds. 

Could it be that I simply had a very complicated relationship with that cat?

One that has involved too many scratches on my arms,

A headache-type ringing to my ears.

And an after-hours search party when she “mistakenly” slid out the back door,

Just seconds after I desperately peeled the door back with only 500 hanging items off my arms and an already spilled cup of coffee.

Why on earth did the cat need to slurp her way to Timbuktu right next to the dinner table where I would be eating food that I had been waiting for and daydreaming about all day?

All.Day. 

I couldn’t do it.

I can’t do it.

I will never do it.

I refused to spend my rent that way, sharing dinner with a slip-slop-slurpery, evil cat.

My food already cold in my hands,

I stormed off to my room.

But really...

I think the cat won that day.

And she knows it. 

An Invitation and a Walk.

Today Phyllis and I walked gravel, and then dirt, and then gravel again- in a loop.

“Want to do one more?” she asked whenever we neared the polished Ranch dressing-white fence with the megabus suburban white cars behind it.

The parking lot that, if we allowed it, bookmarked the end of our time together under this perfect patch of October sky.

 

I forget every year how pretty the fall is. 

It surprises me each October at every first chill, every first pumpkin sighting in the neighborhood or the tiniest first speck of yellow in a leaf.

Phyllis asked me this easy question like we had known each other much longer than two whole weeks. The question rolled off her tongue like a neighbor who casually locked you in to a conversation you could trust, a conversation you actually cared about. Not about the weather or the trash guy getting sloppy on his pickups, but about a favorite book or artist. It was a warm invitation that said she appreciated me, or at least it seemed that way.

 

Here’s the thing-

When Phyllis asked me to go on a walk today,

I literally hop-skipped out of the house.

I couldn’t help it.

She was and is my first friend here.

In a new town, a completely new season.

 

When I walked up to her car after first arriving to the park today,

she spilled into conversation like water.

Clear, soft, smooth.

 

You know, I didn’t know how bad I needed this-

A friend.

A girl friend.

A 63-year-old hilarious coworker now girlfriend that begins stories and statements with “Honey” and talks about Chattanooga like you wouldn’t believe. She knows back stories upon back stories of all people, places, and things here.

 

“Yes, I can do one more loop,” I kept hearing myself say, each time a bit less shy.

And I pray the loops would keep coming.